“RIP all the opportunities which we missed due to shyness, under-confidence & fear of being rejected.”
This was something being displayed on my gram feed yesterday. And instead of trying to scroll down, my mind got stuck into the gist of what this line says. So I decided to pen down my thoughts on this because I strongly feel that this is something which is very common into our lives.
Each one of us must have lost something because of the fear of rejection at some point in our lives. Everyone experiences this fear, if not usually than at least for once. Maybe you did not apply to that job just by looking at the large number of applicants. Maybe you didn’t asked someone out. Maybe you didn’t tell your parents about your passion or maybe you yourself didn’t try to follow your passion. And eventually, you are left with regrets of not doing that.
Rejection hurts and there’s no way around it. But do we ever think that the outcomes of our inactions due to the fear of rejection are way more painful than rejection itself. We take some decisions that don’t pay off. And that’s perfectly okay. Failures are a part of life not the terminating points of life. Take risks might lead us towards massive failures or towards wonderful achievements, joy & success. Both the situations are going to be win-win situations because even if fail, we gain a new experience & confidence which can transform our lives.
The fear of rejection is something we develop by making stories of our own self, our under-estimated self. We put ourselves in the situation and declare that we’re not competent enough to do that. Actually, it’s a limiting belief which hold us back even for our whole lives. As human beings, we’re all made to live in comfort, by avoiding the pain caused by rejections or changes. But the cost we incur is also great — we lose most of our basic needs i.e. relationships, personal growth, career opportunities etc.
The idea is not to focus upon what you will have to go through to achieve your goals, rather, to focus upon how it feels in the end, when you succeed. This fear of rejection is also like other human emotions. Do not let it drive you, learn to master it.
Fear of rejection can release you from short term pain, giving you deeps long term wounds. And once you realize that it isn’t as horrible as you predicted, you’ll become unstoppable.
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